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When I was struggling to get out of the old relationship

I was afraid that if I stayed in this city,

 I might meet my ex-girlfriend on the bus, on the road, at any corner - which would be impossible to accept.

I was sure that if I could get out of this city and start a new, I would be fine.

I may not have that much money, but I have a plan and can calculate and spend, so I wanted to use it for as long as possible.

For the next years, I was engrossed in a work that could be called, in other words, a 'heart treatment.'

Considering the direction of the brain, the part where there is a feeling of physical pain, when someone gets real pain, the same feeling is created.

That's exactly what happens when drug addicts don't get drugs (withdrawal syndrome).

In my case, it felt like the inside of my body was burning.  

I used to work a lot more than before.

Even then, I have not been able to overcome all the difficulties. 

I realized that rural life was very different for a man like me who had grown up in a city.

I am lucky to have the support of my family.

But I started to feel that my friends wanted to be with me.

After a while, many people stopped calling because everyone is busy with their own lives, right?

Although many promised to come, they could not come later.

Then I thought a question, is there anything to break the relationship in a good way?

Is there any way to deal positively with heartbreak?

But a year later, I'm writing this to find out.

Dealing with heartbreak is, in my opinion, an art. But there are no such sincere people in the world?

When someone tries to explain it to you, it may seem that he does not understand your feelings.

But over time the idea will become more and more acceptable that; my ex-partner was not ideal and the things he found interesting to me can be found in.

How long can it take to get over it completely? 

"You can't rush for love" is a song by Supremes.

But sadly, you can't rush to overcome that love.

One study claims that it can take up to three months for a person to recover from a breakup.

As I said, breaking a heart is not a matter of science.

Personally, in my case, it took six months to get ready to move forward.

Surprisingly - the person I found inside myself also believed in a meaningful relationship.

Since then I have not shed a single tear for my ex-partner.

In this personal case, my opinion is this: overcoming the pain of heartbreak is a big challenge and a difficult one, because of its simplicity.

But the funny thing and the essence of it is: to think that you are someone worthy of love and in a short time you will find love again.

Then there is a kind of temptation or provocation - such as calling your ex-girlfriend or girlfriend again, begging her, trying to remind her of what you have done.

But this does not mean that we have to be at the door of science. 

Several studies have tried to understand what happens and how we can handle it. 

A recent study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology suggests that there are three ways to try: think about the bad side of the ex-partner, accept the fact that you have a love for the ex-partner, and divert your attention from the good.

Since none of these are completely ideal, it has been found that in all three of these approaches, participants' feelings about their ex-partner were greatly reduced.

Another a good way to start is with the advice of relationship expert De Holmes: '' Set aside some time for yourself.

 But don't let this emotion control your life.

 You might think that you can't live in this house without your ex. 

But to be honest, if you move things around the house a little or paint the walls, you may feel like you can't stay here.

Anger can play a special role in different levels of sadness or pain. 

That’s right, at first, the rage might seem like a volcano.

When you decide that you can't stand someone, their emptiness will feel less.

A counseling video titled 'How to Forget Someone' says that it is not right to think that you have never liked someone to forget them.

Rather it can be analyzed what was inside it that you liked.

Then ask yourself, can these qualities be found in a future partner? 

Then I also thought, which quality inside my partner I liked the most.

But there are no such sincere people in the world.

I find that these approaches are very helpful in overcoming my former relationship.

However, the theory that "there is much more fish in the sea" does not work very well in the early days of breaking up.

But over time, the notion that my ex-partner was not ideal and that what seemed to me to be interesting could be found in others.

Putting these tips together will create a plan: acknowledge your feelings, let yourself grieve, talk to family and friends, and if necessary, seek counseling.

Keep a diary, avoid social media, delete old distressed pictures or messages, divert your attention.

Don't make hasty decisions, don't communicate with your ex-partner, think about his or her bad aspects.

After a while think about its good aspects and consider whether these qualities can be found in someone else.

And getting that is just a matter of time.